Where Do Most New York Cheating Spouses Live? In the Suburbs!

Oh man, this is not good.

Lots of coverage this week of a report from Ashley Madison, a website apparently designed for people looking to have affairs, identifying the best places in the New York to try to cheat on your spouse.  Essentially, Ashley Madison looked at the overall population of towns and cities, and then calculated the percentage of people who were members of the site.

So, for example, at least 3% of the adults who live in Great Neck, Long Island are on the site, living in cheater’s paradise. That’s pretty alarming.  I mean, if you live in Great Neck, and you’re in a room with 33 other people, statistically speaking one of you is on Ashley Madison looking for some strange.  And one of those people might be your spouse…..

Indeed, the report showed that seven of the top 10 cheating areas were in the suburbs.  Here’s the full top 10 list:

1). Great Neck, L.I.

2). Park Slope, Brooklyn

3). Upper East Side

4). Forest Hills, Queens

5). TriBeCa

6). New City – Rockland County

7). Douglaston, Queens

8). Riverdale, The Bronx

9). Howard Beach, Brooklyn

10). Garden City, L.I.

I think that’s a little surprising.  After all, who would have thought that the quiet, boring suburbs would be such hotbeds of sweaty illicit action?  I mean, seriously — New City?  I’ve been to New City.  I don’t even think that the people in New City have sex with their spouses, much less other people’s spouses.  I need to get out more, apparently.

How can this be? Well, the methodology is a little whack, since it’s based on taking the total number of people who live in a town/city and then dividing it by the number of people on the site.  So I can see how smaller towns might be more likely to make the top 10 list, simply because they have fewer people and a relatively small number of members could forge a higher percentage.

But it also might actually be a reflection of the general atmosphere of the suburbs: more married people, more boredom, more free weekends with not a lot to do. And maybe people in the suburbs need a site like Ashley Madison to hook up, since you don’t have the urban density of the city to provide fresh new opportunities to destroy your married life and ultimately cut your life savings in half.

I have to be honest that I’m very happy that Nyack didn’t make the list, because I have enough problems at home.

Who’s Moving to the Suburbs? Lesbians, That’s Who!

Here at the Move to Suma, we’ve been keeping track of all the people who are moving to the suburbs, which is really just a thinly-veiled attempt to validate my own decision.  The more people who are moving to the suburbs, the better I feel.  So in the past year or so, we’ve commented on census studies showing that immigrants and African-Americans are increasingly migrating from the cities to the suburbs, and pointed out a few celebrities who are also making the move.

So now, we also want to welcome our newest addition — lesbians!

It used to be that gay, lesbian and bi-sexual people in the suburbs found the climate less than welcoming. LGBT people had to blend in to make it in suburban neighborhoods. Not so now. These days suburban living is viewed as a real option for LGBT people and they are moving to suburbs that are close to NYC as well as towns further out.

According to Gary Gates, a demographer from the Urban Institute who did a study for HRC after the 2000 census, gay male couples largely prefer urban environments (45%) to suburbs (41.3%) and lesbian couples settle more often in suburban locales (46%) than city centers (38.2%).

The post from Its Conceivable recounts the story of a lesbian couple with a one-year old daughter who moved to New Rochelle, a lovely suburb of Manhattan, where they’ve found a community of new York City “ex-pats.”

So what do we think of those stats, showing such a mixed preference among gays and lesbians for the cities versus the suburbs?  I mean, it certainly flies in the face of conventional wisdom that the LGBT community would prefer the traditional greater levels of tolerance and diversity of the cities.  But I think key to those stats is that they come from COUPLES, not singles.  That is, it’s sort of interesting that gay and lesbian couples, particularly, I imagine, couples with children, have the same impulse to move to the suburbs that straight couples do.  My guess is that gay and lesbian singles would have much stronger preferences for the city (which is, again, not so much different from straight people).

People are people, you know?  Gay, straight, as they get older they have the same sort of changes in their lives that sometimes compel changes in where they live.

As we’ve noted a few times in this space, it is interesting to see all these demographic studies that are showing how the suburbs are becoming more ethnic and diverse: immigrants, African-Americans, and now the LGBT community.  Most of these people come to the suburbs for the same reasons: more space, cheaper living, and an easier place to raise kids. It’s a universal need as you get older.  But the nice part is that as we start to see those changes in the suburbs, we might actually find the suburbs becoming more “livable” to exiles.  After all, one of the reasons a 17 year resident of Manhattan like me was willing to move to the suburbs was the opportunity to live somewhere like Nyack, which is relatively diverse and lefty and gay-friendly and all that.  It would be nice to think that the suburbs will eventually evolve to provide more neighborhoods like that, places where you don’t feel like you’re selling your soul when you leave the city.

So welcome to Kim and Philippa, the couple from the story, and welcome to everyone else joining me in the suburbs.

Why Do People Move to the Suburbs? Simply Put, They Have Kids

Why do people move to the suburbs?  Let’s think about that for a minute, break down that question.

Note that the question is not, “why do people live in the suburbs,” which is, in my mind, a very different question.  People might live in the suburbs for a bunch of reasons. Maybe that’s where they grew up, and never left. Maybe that’s where they work, so it doesn’t occur to them to live anywhere else. Maybe they just never had the hankering for the big city lights, and prefer the quieter, slower pace traditionally associated with the picket fences and all that. Maybe it’s simple inertia.  Maybe they just like the Cheescake Factory.  It could be a million reasons.

But our question today is different: “why do people MOVE to the suburbs,” which implies that those people are currently living somewhere else, probably a city.  In that case, the answer is usually simple — they’re having a kid.

That’s what it almost always comes down to.  You don’t see a lot of happy-go-lucky 30 year olds — single, no kids, with a job — who suddenly decide to trade in their urban life so they can commute an hour or so every day to work. No single person wakes up one morning saying, “Hey, I’m just getting tired of Asian-Latin fusion takeout, and muddled drinks, and lots of 20-something single hotties who enjoy casual sexual relations, and being able to take cabs home when I decide to spontaneously celebrate Cinco de Mayo in September.  What I REALLY need is a guest bedroom!  Time to move to the suburbs!!!!”

No one does that. Single people don’t need space, they don’t care about schools, they don’t generally want the quiet. Even for married couples without kids, the tradeoffs of the suburbs versus the city don’t seem to make sense, so long as they can live in a a two room coop without ending up in a War of the Roses situation.

No, any discussion about moving to the suburbs is inexorably, invariably, going to become entwined with the decision to have kids. If it was all about you, then you’d stay in the city.  But when it’s suddenly all about a mini-you that doesn’t have a particular affinity for 20-something hotties or delivery Vietnamese or infused tequila, and who is currently sleeping in a crib at the foot of your bed, you start to re-think your priorities.

I did things a little backwards, of course. We moved from the city in 2009 simply on the anticipation of becoming parents in the near future, and our expectation that life would simply be easier for us and better for him/her in the suburbs. But for people who already have kids, who are actually living in confined space with a little child and realizing just how much becoming a parent is inconsistent with remaining an urbanized sophisticate hipster, I think the choice is even more compelling.

I was thinking about this because I came across this lovely piece by Jordan Reid in her Ramshackleglam blog, where she writes about her fear of how her life would change in moving to the suburbs: the fear that she won’t make friends, or that her friends won’t be the “kinds of friends that I have in my life now,” or that she’ll wind up feeling like she settled for a life that’s less exciting or interesting than the one she would have had in the city.

Ultimately, though, she writes that it ended up not being a difficult decision, particularly once she considered not what she wanted, but what her son needed:

Most of all, though, the reason we want to move is that city life is not what we want for our son. I grew up here, and I had a great childhood, but I want something different for him. I want him to have a yard to run around in with Lucy and Virgil. I want him to go fishing on Saturdays with his Dad not because it’s a big, special production involving car rentals and long drives, but rather because that’s just what they feel like doing. I want to pick up our pumpkin in a patch, not in a grocery store. I want him to have a swing set of his very own.

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But now it’s not about us anymore, not really: it’s about a little man who smiles so much when he looks out our New York City window, even when there’s nothing to see outside but the apartment building across the way, that all we want to do is set him free to study the sky. And when we take that into account…

well…

it’s not really a decision at all.

It’s just what we’re going to do. 

It’s really a beautiful piece, certainly better than anything I’ve ever written about the subject, so I’m looking forward to seeing what she has to say once she settles in.

And it certainly reinforces the point that for some reason has eluded me for so long. I’ve been belaboring my decision about moving to the suburbs, painting it as something I did by choice, something that I could second-guess if it didn’t work out.  But the more I think about it, the more I realize that, like Ms. Reid, I didn’t really have a choice.

The bottom line: people don’t move to the suburbs because they want to, they move because they have to.  And the decision often isn’t theirs to make. So I should give myself a break….

Who’s Moving to the Suburbs? More Asian-Americans, That’s Who!

The Associated Press reported last week that Asian-Americans are increasingly moving to the suburbs from the inner cities::

America’s historic Chinatowns, home for a century to immigrants seeking social support and refuge from racism, are fading as rising living costs, jobs elsewhere and a desire for wider spaces lure Asian-Americans more than ever to the suburbs.

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Nationwide, about 62% of Asian-Americans in the nation’s large metropolitan areas live in the suburbs, up from 54% in 1990 and the highest ever. Tied with Hispanics as the fastest-growing group, the nation’s 4.4 million Asians are more likely than other minorities to live in the suburbs; only whites, at 78%, are higher.

Since 2000, nearly three-fourths of Asian population growth in the U.S. occurred in suburbs, many of them in the South.

This all makes sense, right?  We’ve noted before the trend for immigrants in general moving from the cities to the suburbs, so it’s not surprising that Asian-Americans are following the same path.  Indeed, it’s kind of what happened in previous generations — my Italian grandparents settled in Bay Ridge, Brooklyn, but their four sons all ended up scattering to the suburbs of Dutchess, Rockland, Long Island, and Staten Island.  That’s pretty much the American experience.  Immigrants are initially attracted to urban centers, particularly those with a high concentration of fellow ex-patriates, but as they have kids, or as their kids have kids, they eventually find their way to the open spaces.  So it’s no surprise that Asian-Americans are doing the same thing.

A hat tip to the 8asian.com blog, which commented on the AP piece and shared a more personal perspective on the trend.  Unsurprisingly, as with most people who move to the suburbs, it’s all about the kids:

I later asked my parents why we moved to the suburbs in the first place. Why did my mother have to endure such a terrible commute? Why did we pick up and leave such a familiar community and move far away from our friends and relatives? For me, it was an uncomfortable experience. Besides having to make new friends, there were just so many cultural differences between the city and the suburbs.

My parents told me that they did it for the schools. More than anything else, they were worried that my sister and I wouldn’t get a good enough education in the city. What if we didn’t do well enough to qualify for entry into one of the specialized public schools? The schools we were zoned for were terrible. And not only were the schools in Great Neck strong, the neighborhoods were also quiet and safe. There, my parents wouldn’t have to worry quite as much about our safety and well-being.

Basically, my parents decided to move for the benefit of their children.

To me, that’s really the reason why so many APA families have migrated to the suburbs. It’s not merely to achieve some vague sense of the American Dream – a nice house, a front yard, and a prettier neighborhood.

It does seem like every time I come across someone writing about the difficult decision to move to the suburbs, they talk about the kids.  It’s the same for hipster urban couples as it is for people recent immigrants living in Chinatown.

All that said, I still find the suburbs pretty white-bread.  My wife and son are Asian, and it’s not unusual to look around when we’re out at a restaurant or a movie and find that they’re pretty much the only minorities in the place. But I know that in other areas of the suburbs you’ll find pretty high concentrations of ethnic residents, like the huge Korean-American population in Palisades Park and Englewood Cliffs, New Jersey.

It’s a funny thing.  We call the suburbs “white,” but only because we’re largely talking about second- and third-generation immigrants who migrated in droves 50 years ago. After all, I’m “white,” but my Sicilian grandfather was certainly not “white” back 75 years ago when he changed his name from “Miserandino” to Rand. (chop off some letters on each side, and become an Anglo!).  We don’t think of Italian food as ethnic anymore, partly because of assimilation but also just because over time ethnicities weave themselves into the general fabric of society.

Now, when we talk about ethnic Americans, we’re talking about the Asian-American or Latino-American populations. But it might be that in 25 years we’ll be complaining about how the suburbs still lack diversity, but only because our understanding of diversity will have changed. As someone in a mixed-race family, I certainly would love to see an increase in ethnic diversity in my area, for all the obvious reasons.

Not the least of which is that hopefully, at some point, I’ll be able to get a decent bowl of soup without having to drive 25 miles into Manhattan.

Advice for People Adopting a Baby: How NOT to Prepare for Your Home Study Interview

Now that we’re back in the states with our little boy, I can tell this story about the adoption process that I embargoed for reasons I’ll explain at the end.

So when you’re adopting a kid, you have to go through a whole screening process. They do criminal checks, take fingerprints, stuff like that. Makes sense, right?  Also, you have to complete a home study interview, where a social worker comes to your home for like three hours to ask you a bunch of questions about your childhood, your parenting philosophy, whether you’re ready to have a child, etc.

It’s not really an “interview” like a job interview. You already have the “referral” and are pretty far through the adoption process, so it’s really more like a final “red flag” check where the social worker just wants to make sure that you’re not living in filth, that you’re not raising baby-eating snakes, that you don’t have naked pictures of little boys adorning your walls, stuff like that. My guess is that the bar is pretty low — the social worker just wants to make sure that nothing jumps out that indicates that you’d put a child at risk.

I felt pretty confident.  We have a nice home, we’re nice people, we showed a commitment to raising a family by leaving the decadent urban Sodom and Gomorrah to come to the land of picket fences and play groups.  We’re model parents!

Of course, my wife is crazy.  So she treated the interview like it was a “make or break” moment for our adoption, as if we had to be absolutely PERFECT or they might take our baby away.  She was running around the house all week cleaning up and straightening out, basically scouring our condo to eliminate any potential sign that we’d be unsuitable parents.  Kozy the dog?  Groomed and cleaned.  Joe the husband?  Get a haircut!  Dying plant in the hallway?  Out you go!  No way we’re going to let the interviewer think that we can’t take care of a plant, or she might nix the adoption.  She was impossible to live with.

Later that week, we’re sitting down with this very nice woman answering some very predictable questions about us and our personal histories.  Essentially, you really only need to make a simple impression: I have no intention of beating my child.  Other than that, you pretty much can’t go wrong.

So what happens?  We get this question: what is your worst memory as a child? I go first, and I describe how I fell from a tree when I was about eight while I was picking apples with my father, and about how worried and upset he was. I thought it was a pretty good story, all about how much my father cared about me, worried about me, took good care of me, just like — hint! — I’ll take good care of this kid that you’re letting me adopt.

And then my wife starts answering the question, telling us about how her worst memory is about how she was fighting with her sister, and accidentally broke a closet door.  So far so good.  Then she explains how the bad part of the memory is that her mother spanked her.  Ummm, okay, but let’s try to stay away from that whole spanking thing, huh?  And THEN she goes on to say that, well, because she’d been so bad and disobeyed her mother, she probably DESERVED IT.

RED FLAG!  RED FLAG! RED FLAG!

Okay, it wasn’t that bad.  The social worker barely noticed.  It’s just that I was hyper-sensitive after watching my wife make our home a dying-plant-free-zone, telling me how important it was to make the right impression, now expressing the rather unorthodox opinion that you can’t blame parents who spank their kids because, you know, sometimes you JUST HAVE TO SMACK THAT KID AROUND A LITTLE TO KEEP HIM IN LINE!  It was hilarious. My guess is that if it was okay to say that, we probably could have kept the poor plants.

So my lesson for people adopting a child is simple: don’t do that.

P.S. My wife wouldn’t let me tell that story for the past four months until we were safely back in the states with our boy.  To the extent that someone in authority reads this blog, let me state very clearly that we would never, ever, under any circumstances hit a child. So please don’t take my kid away.

Participating in “Movember” Shows Me Why It’s a Really Bad Idea for Me to Grow a Mustache

 

 

 

 

 

I really hate cancer.  You probably do too.  So I was delighted to take part in the annual Movember fundraiser to fight prostate cancer, which promotes the cause by encouraging people to grow mustaches (hence, “MO-Vember”) to raise awareness and visibility and all that.

I have not been as involved this year, because most of November involved going to Taiwan to pick up the kid, and I didn’t want to show up there sporting a scary mustache.  I figure he should probably get to know me as I usually look.

So I got started on my mustache late, only around Thansgiving, and I have to say that it doesn’t…..well, it doesn’t look………good.  Some people look great in mustaches, like Keith Hernandez.  Other people, like me, look like someone who drives around in a white, windowless van.

Take a look, if you dare.  And if you want to contribute, go to this link.

 

The Year of the Plagues: Snow on Halloween

Seriously?  It snowed on Halloween?  Two months ago, we got an earthquake, and then a hurricane, and now everyone’s costume parties got canceled because we got snow in October?  This is really a wierd year.

I’m dreading winter.  The one thing I hate about living in New York is the climate.  And I’ve lived in this climate pretty much my whole life, except for two wonderful years in northern California when I was at Stanford.  People who complain about the weather in San Francisco should just be beaten around the head and face, because it’s just the best.  Never too hot, never too cold, you can pretty much wear a light jacket all year round.  A little fog once in a while? Please.  Shut up.

I hate the climate in the northeast.  People that say they love living where they can enjoy all four seasons are talking about like five days every season. Too hot in the summer, too cold in the winter, you get like five good days of spring between the rain and then the heat, and maybe 20 good days to look at the leaves in the fall.  Otherwise, horrible. Give me one season — Sunny — and I’m fine.

I’m off to go shovel some snow in my vampire costume.

The Grass is Always Greener: Why People Who Live in the Suburbs Want to Live in the City, and People Who Live in the City (Surprisingly) Want to Live in the Suburbs

Greg Hanscom put up an interesting take on Grist.org on the discrepancy between where people say they want to live (dense cities) and where they actually seem to be ending up living (sprawling suburbs).  He points to polling data that came from the real estate advising firm RCLCO showing that 88% of Millenials and even their Baby Boomer parents express a desire to live in denser and less car-dependent settings, which is in conflict with census data showing population growth in the suburbs and declines in the cities.

His take:

  • Lots of Millenials would LOVE to move to the cities, but to do that they need of them jobs that no one seems to be able to get these days. So they’re camping out at their parents’ place in the suburbs, “watching It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia reruns and dreaming of big city living.”
  • Although crime is down in the big cities, but not enough to diminish frightening images of the city as violent places.
  • And although young people like to live in the cities, they pack up for the suburbs as soon as they have kids.

Finally, he makes a brilliant point that maybe this is all about something deep in the American psyche that makes us consistently pine for that which we don’t have, almost a “grass is always greener” perspective that affects all of us.  He points out that according to a 2009 Pew poll, 46% of the public “would rather live in a different type of community from the one they’re living in now — a sentiment that is most prevalent among city dwellers.”

It’s a brilliant post, and I think he’s right on all counts.  Without question young people want to live in the cities — why wouldn’t someone who is 25 prefer to live in a place with abundant nightlife opportunities, ethnic diversity, culture, and public transportation that allows you to drink your face off and still get home safely?  And, conversely, it’s also abundantly clear that people tend to gravitate toward the larger living spaces afforded in the suburbs once they start filling up their 600 square foot apartment with a bunch of screaming children.

Moreover, I think there’s something to the “grass is greener” affect.  Most people who live in the city tend to settle down into a torpid state where they take all that great city stuff for granted.  Like me, they stop going out so much, particularly as they get older, and spend more time in their home and surrounding neighborhood.  And then they increasingly realize that, boy, it really sucks to spend 90% of your time in a two-room apartment, so they pine away for the larger, greener pastures of the suburbs.  Then, of course, you have people like me who move to the suburbs for a lot of good reasons, but look around one night at the Cheescake Factory and think that they’ve made a terrible, terrible mistake.  Essentially, we all want what we don’t have, particularly if we used to have it.  It must be something deeply wired into our brains to keep us constantly on the move, always looking for something better, that helped us get through the caveman days.  But it really does make it difficult to appreciate what you have.

So I have no problem admitting that I’m one of those people: I moved to the suburbs, but I really do miss living in the city, and I’m certainly happy that I got my 17 years of urban living in before I exiled myself.

I’ll also say this: if you’re reading this, and you live in the city, go do something. Go to the park, or a club, or a great restaurant, or stare at paintings.  That’s why you’re living in the city, why you’re sacrificing all that money and comfort.  So go do it.  Before it’s too late.

On the News that Newburgh is the “Murder Capital of New York”: Thoughts on Gentrification, and Living in a Suburban Mini-City

I always find it interesting when people, usually liberals like me, complain about “gentrification,” particularly the yuppification of working class neighborhoods.  We bemoan how the migration of upscale residents force rents and home prices up, forcing the original residents out of their homes and changing the character of the neighborhoods — often the very character that attracted the affluent invaders in the first place.  Of course, what’s always funny is that the people who complain about gentrification are the very people who would never DREAM of actually moving into those areas before they gentrify.

I understand the concerns about gentrification to the extent that they focus on the needs of displaced residents who find themselves priced out of neighborhoods that they’ve called home for a long time.  And I certainly think that more should be done to ensure that people have affordable places to live in areas where they’d like to live.

But let’s be real — most of the places that get gentrified were not such particularly nice places to live to begin with.  You want to complain about how Manhattan exiles are changing the character of Williamsburg?  Fine, but tell me when you’d even heard of Williamsburg before they started building upscale condos there.  You want to complain about Times Square — okay, but then tell me about all the times you used to actually go there when it was porn shops and abandoned buildings. Yes, it’s terrible that places like Soho and Tribeca pushed out all the artists who lived there, back when you never went south of 14th street.  So just shut up.

Moreover, most of the places where these pretentious romanticizers live now were themselves gentrified; it’s just that the process took place so long ago that they don’t remember what the neighborhoods were like in the old days.  Take, for example, the Upper West Side, one of the most upscale neighborhoods in the country, and where I lived happily for about 15 years.  People don’t remember, for example that West Side Story was actually set in the lower UWS. And it’s not like the gentrification process was 50 years ago.  When I bought on 82d Street in 1994, the general sense was that the Upper West Side was great, but you didn’t want to buy north of 86th street. My next-door neighbor told me that she bought her whole brownstone in the early 1970s for about $25,000, when no one wanted to live there.  She said she remembers hearing gunshots every night.  She did pretty good with that investment, but the larger point is that everyone who lives on the Upper West Side, complaining about the changing character of Brooklyn, lives in a gentrified neighborhood. It’s just that they probably moved in long after gentrification took place, once it was “safe.”  So unless they want to claim that the statute of limitations has passed on bemoaning the gentrification of the UWS, they need to shut up.

I’ve seen the same thing in Nyack, where I live now.  When I was growing up in Rockland, Nyack was just starting to emerge from decades of neglect, epitomized by racial unrest, decaying infrastructure, poverty, all of that.  You want to say things were better than, before all the antique stores and restaurants moved in?  Okay.  For who?

Indeed, Nyack is now one of those places that gives you some of the benefits that people normally attribute to urban living — diversity, ethnicity, walkable downtowns — while still providing the benefits of a suburban lifestyle.  That is, it’s one of those places that people who move from the city say they want.  And you see this sort of thing in pockets throughout the Manhattan suburbs, places like White Plains, which is a mini-city with a growing downtown area that has gone through its own renewal.

I got to thinking about the history in Nyack when reading Patrick Radden Keefe’s riveting article in New York Magazine about the crime problems in Newburgh, a small city in Orange County about 20 miles north of me:

Beautifully situated on a picturesque bend in the Hudson about a 90 minutes’ drive north of New York City, Newburgh does not look, from a distance, like a community mired in High Noon levels of lawlessness. But in actuality, it has less in common with bohemian Beacon, just across the river (“Williamsburg on the Hudson,” as the Times recently anointed it), than it does with, say, West Baltimore. Despite its small size and bucolic setting, Newburgh occupies one of the most dangerous four-mile stretches in the northeastern United States. “There are reports of shootouts in the town streets, strings of robberies, and gang assaults with machetes,” an alarmed Chuck Schumer said in a Senate hearing last year, describing the situation in Newburgh as “shocking.” With a higher rate of violent crime per capita than the South Bronx or Brownsville, little Newburgh, population 29,000, is the murder capital of New York State.

The article goes on to recount the steps being taken by James Gagliano, the head of the Hudson Valley Safe Streets Task Force, to clean up the city, and the difficulties of revitalizing an impoverished community. What’s interesting to me is that someone could have written that same article about Nyack in the 1960s and early 1970s, before the area started to turn around.  I know Newburgh very well.  My real estate company has an office in the area, and I’ve been to the city to talk about the investment potential there a few times.  It’s one of those great old Hudson River cities, and it always seems to me that the city has the potential for recovering just the same way that Nyack did.

As we say in the real estate business, it has “good bones”: great architecture, beautiful old buildings, great access to the Hudson, close to what might become the fourth major metropolitan airport at Stewart, and convenient to the Thruway.  And there are parts of it right now that are terrific.  I have friends who live in Newburgh, whom I’ve visited a few times, and they have a whole community of young, interesting, vibrant people who circulate through the city.  It’s just that, like a lot of emerging areas, there are good parts and bad parts.

Keefe captures this potential of the city, and the historical legacy, really well:

One of Newburgh’s crueler ironies is the way today’s depressed urban landscape is overlaid on a rich architectural foundation full of vestiges of bygone wealth. In the nineteenth century, the city flourished as a hub for river-borne commerce. Thomas Edison built one of the nation’s earliest power plants there in 1884. But eventually the factories relocated, the ferry was discontinued after the construction of the Newburgh-Beacon Bridge, and Broadway emptied out after malls opened outside town. In the sixties, the city undertook a disastrous experiment in urban renewal, demolishing the historic waterfront but failing to replace it with anything.

It feels almost spooky to walk today among the Gilded Age mansions of long-dead industrialists on Montgomery Street, some of them boarded up, others carved into low-income apartments. Abandoned buildings abound, many of them gone to rot. “We’re not unique,” Nicholas Valentine, a local tailor who serves as Newburgh’s mayor, tells me. “It’s happened to many communities up and down the Hudson. Poughkeepsie. Peekskill. Things die.”

Yes, things die.  But they’re sometimes reborn.  It’s good to see that the authorities are taking such an aggressive approach to cleaning up Newburgh.  It’s one of those places that I would love to see recover, and not just for business reasons.  I just see how a place like Nyack has become a real jewel of the region, and think that Newburgh could do the same thing.  Then again, I’ve been saying it for ten years, and it hasn’t quite happened yet.

But I do feel there’s a very good chance that 20 years ago people will be complaining about  how the “character” of Newburgh has changed, how homes are so expensive.  They’ll romanticize the past, and talk about how gentrification has destroyed the essential authentic nature of the city.  And none of those people, none of them, would move there today.  So, again, shut up.

Earthquakes, Hurricanes, What Else Do You Got?

My parking garage after the hurricane.

An unmoored boat, not mine for once, beached on the rocks by the Nyack pier.

 

First an earthquake, and now a hurricane.  Been an interesting August.

We rode out the hurricane okay.  I know we weren’t supposed to leave our home and all, but a friend was having a birthday party Saturday, and, well, the hurricane wasn’t expected to really arrive until later that night, so we went.  I mean, after writing a few weeks ago about how tough New Yorkers are, I couldn’t very well blow off a party for a little wind and rain.

I was certainly glad to be out of the city for something like this, though.  That was a little scary, some of the warnings that were being made. I’m thinking that in a natural disaster, you pretty much want to be in a place where you aren’t in a big tall building surrounded by other big tall buildings, and where you have a car that you can use to escape if the disaster turns into the apocalypse.

That said, I don’t have the classic suburban home. I’m up in a condo at the top of a tall building, poised to fall right into the Hudson should anything really bad happen.  Even better, pretty much all my walls are made of glass.  The glass is much better for checking out the river views, but much, much worse for your state of mind when they’re getting rocked by 75 mph winds.  You know what it sounds like when a hurricane hits a wall of glass, 200 feet above the ground?  I do.  Not good.  Not good at all.

But we made it through. No real damage, a little flooding in our garage but we were able to move the cars to higher ground.  The worst part was climbing stairs again, a reminder from my old days in my Manhattan walkup.  No way I was taking an elevator with the risk of the power going out (it eventually did for a day or so), making me one of those light-hearted news features about the schmuck who spent three days trapped drinking his own urine to survive.  So the stairs it is!

Hope everyone is okay.  Keep a watch out for the locusts.  And if you’re a first-born son like me, you might want to keep an eye on your front door.